10 Things You Can Learn About a Guy in 3 Dates or Less

I came across this little tidbit and couldn't help sharing with you. Interesting to get a man's perspectie on this... What do you think?


10 Things You Can Learn About a Guy in 3 Dates or Less

There are no absolutes in the world, save for the whole bit about death and taxes. This is espe­cially true in the dat­ing world. Dat­ing web­sites are sup­posed to help us with this, to a degree. How­ever, peo­ple tend to fluff them­selves and fil­ter out key pieces of infor­ma­tion aka “deal break­ers.” Get­ting to know some­one is fun, but the prob­lem is that it takes time… No one wants to waste time. So I’m gonna give the ladies a lit­tle some­thin’ some­thin’ to help with fil­ter­ing out men they may not be into.

1.Messy or Clean? - There’s a dif­fer­ence between a guy who lives per­fectly pris­tine, mildly mess or OMGWTFBBQFTL is that an Opos­sum watch­ing ‘Weeds’ on your couch, with the remote!!!? If you dig some­one who is metic­u­lous and, per­haps, a bit obses­sive with clean­li­ness this guy may be for you. A mildly messy guy shows some­one who is lose, goes with the flow and is open minded. They could also be sloppy, or just a bit lazy, if not imma­ture. Some­one liv­ing in what seems like the rem­nants of Cher­nobyl is some­one that has more issues going on than just their liv­ing area. Be pre­pared and bring your gloves.

2.Traf­fic: Man, traf­fic sucks, or You piece of @#$% go @#$% your­self!!!—A man’s tem­pera­ment should be a key indi­ca­tor to the suc­cess of any rela­tion­ship you look to jump into. A guy curs­ing at and run­ning cars off the road is a sure warn­ing sign, or it should be. Maybe you like guys with anger man­age­ment issues… It’s pos­si­ble to be too upset and too mel­low, they are extreme sides of the same coin, really. If a guy doesn’t care he’s just been cut off and put in dan­ger, then that could indi­cate that the guy doesn’t stand up for himself.

3.Pub­lic Dis­plays of Affec­tion (PDA) - As with the ‘Three Bears Story,’ there’s too much, too lit­tle and just right. Obvi­ously, it’s up to you to know which is right for you. A guy that’s hold­ing you and grop­ing you, oth­er­wise smoth­er­ing you, out in pub­lic prob­a­bly has a need to show you off, or to show that he’s got some­one and that the world needs to know about it. It’s val­i­da­tion, in some way. If the guy’s roman­tic way to end an evening is with a fist bump, then he’s prob­a­bly not sure if he’s really into you or not, or could be lack­ing confidence.

4.What Does he Order for Din­ner?—What your guy orders can be telling also. Is he a mac and cheese kind of guy. Does he avoid the hip eatery around the cor­ner? Does he run and hide at the men­tion of a late night taco truck run? Is he oth­er­wise happy with Ham­burger helper? These are not inher­ently bad things. They just serve as a gauge for you to know how open he is to dif­fer­ent things. Some­one that isn’t into exotic foods, or just try­ing new and dif­fer­ent places may be some­one not keen for try­ing too many dif­fer­ent things…

5.How Does He Pre­fer to Com­mu­ni­cate?—Does your guy send you text mes­sages all the time? Does he take the time to call? If he has to break his plans will call, email or text you? If he calls you more often than not, espe­cially when some­thing comes up, this indi­cates that he’s a bit more con­sid­er­ate and able to pony up and “be a man” when things get rough. If he’s tex­ting a lot, or email­ing, he may just not be sure if he’s com­pletely into you, or sim­ply, he may not be as mature as you’d like.

6.His Group of Friends. —The entourage that he rolls with; who do the con­sist of? Are they high school friends, nearly exclu­sively? Or is it a pretty good mix of peo­ple from var­i­ous stages of his life? If he keeps the com­pany of the peo­ple that he’s known since high school (aka for­ever) then he may have issues with trust and/or could be averse to change or step­ping out­side of his com­fort zone. This could also indi­cate a strong sense of loy­alty. If his cir­cle of friends has a large vari­ety then, yeah, that’s some­one who’s not afraid to mix things up and prob­a­bly open to newer expe­ri­ences and offers some­thing new more often.

7.Does He Have a Favorite Team? - Men who really enjoy sports also tend to have a com­pet­i­tive atti­tude and also tend to be pas­sion­ate. This is also some­thing that he may share with his bud­dies on a reg­u­lar basis. Not a bad thing, but watch­ing the game, espe­cially if it’s the play­offs, may trump your plans or spontaneity.

8.His Bad Habits.—Does he gam­ble? Does he flirt with the help, like the wait­ress? Does he fail to keep up on the laun­dry? Does he inter­rupt you while you’re talk­ing? Keep an eye out for some of his warn­ing signs… Maybe they’re endear­ing at first, but these lit­tle nuggets of info let you know what you’re deal­ing with and just know these things prob­a­bly aren’t going any­where. Can you deal with them?

9.What does He Spend His Money on? —If you’re look­ing for a mature guy and he spends his money on comic book char­ac­ter bust sculp­tures, main­tain­ing his ten World of War­craft monthly mem­ber­ships or updat­ing his awe­some home enter­tain­ment sys­tem then that might be an issue. A guy that knows where he’s headed plans for it, saves for it and gets there by being a respon­si­ble spender. If he’s spend­ing things on more triv­ial items that may indi­cate that he’s more of a free fun lov­ing spirit… It really depends what you are look­ing for in order to know if either way he spends his money is bad for you.

10.How Does he Talk About Mom?—Again, there are no absolutes here, but if a guy has a poor rela­tion­ship with mom, that can some­times raise a red flag. The mom is one of the most impor­tant rela­tion­ships a guy devel­ops in his life­time. If a guy has issues with his mom then it can some­times be harder for him to under­stand, respect and even trust the new gal in his life. How­ever, if he’s had issues with his mom and can say, pos­i­tively, that he’s worked them out or that he knows they need improve­ment then that is a pos­i­tive. The other side to that is the mama’s boy. The guy who can’t get enough of mom and that puts you in a com­pe­ti­tion to win atten­tion from his mom…

Do these all work every time? Sev­enty per­cent of the time they work every time. So keep that in mind when read­ing up on this list.

Alex Vasquez is the founder and Creative Director of Design at DigiSavvy, Inc (digisavvy.com), a creative web design and social media marketing agency focusing on business branding based in Orange County, CA.

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